The first biblical motive for marriage is companionship.
Second, marriage provides sexual protection. The key passage here is I Corinthians 7:2-3: “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication [i.e., any sexual perversion], let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.” God’s design and beautiful balance is that to prevent sexual sin, we get married and have a physical relationship that is mutually beneficial to both husband and wife.
It is fitting that this instruction appears in Paul’s letter to the Corinthian believers. Among the Greeks most sex was outside of marriage, and the Corinthian believers were in the thick of it. While Paul deals with sins in the areas of attitude in 1:10-4:21— the major attitudes being pride and arrogance—in chapter 5 he turns to the sins of action, primarily in fact, with sexual sin. Such sin arose then for the same reasons it arises today, namely, humanistic education and amoral philosophy. Temple prostitution, for example, actually glorified promiscuous sex. Such relations were so common that the practice came to be called “Corinthianizing.” Many believers had formerly been involved in such immorality, and it was hard for them to break with the old ways and easy to fall back into them.
Later in the letter (6:12-20), Paul details three evils of sexual sin. First, he writes that it is not “expedient” (v. 12a), that is, it’s unprofitable. No sin is more destructive than sexual sin. While it promises satisfaction, it ends up “bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword” (Prov. 5:4). Second, Paul writes that he would not be “brought under the power of any” sin (v. 12b), and sexual sin is uncontrollable. Many a man has started with pornography and ended up not being able to have normal relations with his wife or even being transformed into a child molester. Third, Paul tells us that sexual sin is unconscionable, that it perverts beyond conscience. In verse 18 he warns that sexual sin is sin against our own body, a perversion of God’s intention for our body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit for the Believer (v. 19-20).
Of all temptation, there is nothing more powerful than sexual lust. Entire industries, in fact, are built upon that drive, prostitution as well as pornography. One of the foundations of advertising and marketing, regardless of the product in question, is that, “Sex sells.” Why? Because it’s such a powerful force. God has, therefore, given us a way to deal with sexual temptation; it’s called sexual activity within marriage. This activity is vital. It’s also vital that it be quantitative for the husband and qualitative for the wife. It is for that reason that God says that each belongs to the other so as to meet those physical and emotional needs.
Third, marriage provides the means of raising godly children. While procreation is not marriage, it is part of marriage, and it is godly marriage that will provide godly children. The key passage here are the two verses that following Malachi’s statement about marriage being a covenant: “And did not he make [them] one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away [i.e. divorce]” (Mal. 2:15-16). The Jews were plagued by divorce, so Malachi reemphasizes the oneness of God’s design. And an essential reason for marriage is raising and training the next generation of godly people.
Fourth and finally, marriage provides the foundational element of human society. Marriage is not something man devised as a clever way to sort out the responsibilities of men, women, and children. God designed it to be the foundational element of all human society. Marriage is under tremendous attack and many are trying to do away with it, but they have no right to do so because they didn’t institute it! In fact, an attack on marriage and the family is actually an attack on all of society because each marriage is like an individual brick in a house; the structure depends upon every single brick. Even though the house will stand with a few missing bricks, the structure is still defaced and weakened and is destined to collapse sooner or later. Let us strive, through Sprit-filling and Word-filling, never to allow our marriages, and subsequently our homes, to be weakened. Let us strive to make them what God wants them to be.
Oh, these motives are, indeed, what make marriage the most beautiful and the most intimate relationship on earth.
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